Monogamy vs Polyamory, Hit & Quit or Love & Commit? - Love and ...

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Posted: Fri Oct 19, 2012 2:30 am?? ?Post subject: Monogamy vs Polyamory, Hit & Quit or Love & Commit?
Which is better for people on the spectrum in your opinion? I am wondering what the healthier option is and I'd like to get some general views on this topic. I have seen many people on the spectrum hold to the idea that a relationship is the ultimate solution to their problems, some even act as if a relationship will somehow magically make them happy and free them from responsibilities in their life. I have seen other people on the spectrum that acknowledge they have no desire for a committed relationship and aim to strive for their academic or financial goals and make a positive contribution through them. I am not judging anyone for making either lifestyle choice, I just want to get an opinion on what is better for people on the spectrum and why.

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Posted: Fri Oct 19, 2012 2:54 am?? ?Post subject:
MXH wrote: Thats a wrong definition of polyamory. The latter being more as being in a relationship with many people, not as much as having no commitment type of deal which is what you described. That out of the way I dont believe in there being a set one that people should strive for. Depending on the circumstances and if people are open and consenting, I agree that neither choice is right or wrong morally and it can depend on the individual. However some people can be pressured into a marriage by family members and this can lead a person to be in a situation that isn't ideal for them. If polyamory and openness was advertised and pushed as more of a lifestyle choice instead of monogamy, would less marriages fail and less people cheat on their partners?

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Posted: Fri Oct 19, 2012 8:45 am?? ?Post subject:
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Posted: Fri Oct 19, 2012 8:46 am?? ?Post subject:
Rorberyllium wrote: As a polyamorous person who has had a number of long-term poly relationships I find the thread title offensively inaccurate. Polyamorous relationships aren't less committed than monogamous relationships. If anything, the openness and honesty necessary for a true poly relationship requires even more commitment. They may not be sexually or romantically exclusive, but at least everyone knows what's going on and can establish rules and limits. Whereas in a monogamous arrangement a person who has feelings for someone else will hide/repress those feelings causing a strain in the relationship and in a worst case scenario cheat on their partner. This.

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